Apologies and apologia.
Here’s an interesting webcomics story for you.
Last Wednesday Penny Arcade, one of my favorite webcomics, posted a strip called “The Sixth Slave.” In it, a slave (in a video game) pleads with his would-be rescuer by saying “Every night, we are raped to sleep by the dickwolves.”
This quite understandably brought on criticism from people who found the joke offensive, tasteless, triggering, or some combination of the three. I sympathized with their concerns, but ultimately fell on Penny Arcade’s side; they are under no obligation to be tasteful, after all, or to censor their comic for universal consumption. (Some would probably argue that tastelessness is their stock in trade.)
Then I saw an exchange between Penny Arcade artist Mike “Gabe” Krahulik and fan Chris Rudnicki on Twitter, which is reproduced below:
rudniculous @cwgabriel @TychoBrahe Rape is not funny, particularly for survivors. Read this (http://j.mp/clMvpZ) for some more info.
rudniculous @cwgabriel @TychoBrahe Sometimes you just need to own up to your mistakes and say sorry, w/o hiding it in a joke-now is one of those times.
cwgabriel @rudniculous how did the fruit fucker not offend you long before dick wolves. He is A fruit rapist.
cwgabriel @rudniculous I don’t feel like we made a mistake.
rudniculous @cwgabriel Your most recent comic depicted a human literally pleading not to be raped, whereas the fruit fucker’s victims are, well, fruit.
rudniculous @cwgabriel I just feel reaching out to those who’ve been hurt is the right thing to do. It can’t hurt to have an honest conversation!
cwgabriel @rudniculous but they are not interested in a conversation. They want an apology. That’s not something I am interested in.
rudniculous @cwgabriel (1/2) I can’t speak for everyone, but I know a few who would appreciate the opportunity to voice their hurt in a space where
rudniculous @cwgabriel (2/2) their concerns won’t be dismissed. I think you would gain a lot of respect from those who feel hurt.
cwgabriel @rudniculous They are certainly welcome to mail me directly. I have tried to answer everyone that mailed me and said they were upset.
rudniculous @cwgabriel I’m glad to hear that. The people mailing you are all fans, and usually want nothing more than for you guys to keep doing your
rudniculous @cwgabriel your thing with a greater appreciation of how triggering rape jokes can be. I know it’s hard to understand rape culture as a man.
rudniculous @cwgabriel (1/2) I recommend this post (http://j.mp/19ciil) for a great introduction to the concept of rape culture. The author uses that
rudniculous @cwgabriel framework to address your comic specifically in this post: http://j.mp/aL3prd . Thanks for responding!
cwgabriel @rudniculous Some people seem to work really hard so that they can be mad. Life is too short.
rudniculous @cwgabriel Rape survivors aren’t necessarily mad, it’s just that coming across triggering depictions can cause them significant trauma.
cwgabriel @rudniculous the idea that our cartoon could cause “significant trauma” is bat shit fucking insane. I’m done talking about this.
rudniculous @cwgabriel (1/2) I’m sorry you feel that way. But I’m sure you you’ve had something awful happen to you or someone close to you, and I’m
rudniculous @cwgabriel (2/2) sure you’d rather others not joke about or make light of it; especially those you look up to.
What a dick.
Chris engaged Mike in the least confrontational way possible but was rudely shot down because…why? He had the audacity to suggest an apology? Krahulik could have spent three minutes on Wikipedia to counter his “bat shit fucking insane” assertion about rape triggers, but his apparent inability to consider whether he was wrong here, or even to validate anyone’s opinion besides his own, is embarrassing. This sorry-is-for-the-weak mindset is toxic bullshit, and they can do better — even if they keep the dickwolves jokes.


